When I first got on the plane to embark on my year abroad, I had no idea just how big of an impact the upcoming year would have on me. I anticipated an exciting year full of new adventures, but something I could have never predicted was just how much I would learn about myself and the world and transform as a person. This past year that I spent in Tokyo was truly the best year of my life, and I can confidently say that the decision to spend my third year of college in Japan was the best decision I have ever made.
Being someone that was very attached to family and home, what surprised me the most about living in Japan was just how much I fell in love with living there. Everything from the kind people, being able to walk anywhere, the 24 hour convenience stores, feeling safe at all times, the cleanliness and efficiency of the train system, the buildings, the amazing food, and vending machines on every corner — to name a few things — made Tokyo my favorite city in the world. There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about how much I miss living in Japan. In California, you have to drive hours to get to and from major cities like San Francisco, Los Angeles, and San Diego. But in Japan, everything is so close together that you can go from the major wards of Shibuya to Harajuku to Roppongi to Daikanyama to Ebisu with just a short train ride, sometimes even on foot. I love that Tokyo is one big, lively city but the 23 wards that it is comprised of are each so distinctive and unique. Every week was an adventure, getting to explore new places and restaurants with some of the best people I’ve ever met. I never thought I would find a place that felt just as home-y as the city I grew up in, but Japan quickly became home to me. Even now, I find my heart aching when I see old pictures and videos of my time abroad, and I cannot wait until I get to go back. Frankly, I’ve never missed anything as much I miss living in Japan.
Growing up, I always felt extremely Japanese. Having grown up in a Japanese-American household, speaking Japanese with my mom, and visiting Japan every few years to see my grandparents — I always felt very closely connected to my Japanese heritage. What instantly took me by surprise when I moved to Japan, however, was how overwhelmingly American and like an outsider I felt. Things about me such as my mannerisms, not being perfectly native in Japanese, and the way I dressed made me feel extremely distant from the culture that had always been my source of identity. Though this was an unexpected realization, it made me appreciate aspects about my upbringing in ways I had never considered before. I thought of it as having the best of both worlds and was so grateful to have both a Japanese and American parent that made me go to Japanese school every week when I was a kid. I joined a Waseda tennis circle called MatchPoint where I was the only foreigner, and the other Japanese students thought it was so cool that I could speak fluent English and Japanese. I would always laugh when they would ask me to say things like “squirrel,” a notoriously hard word to pronounce with a Japanese accent because of the combination of “r” and “l.” Being Japanese-American has a new and greater meaning for me, and I ultimately left Japan with a stronger sense of self, identity, and deeper appreciation for Japan that I could have only obtained by living there for a year.
Though I’ve always been told I was mature and independent for my age, I feel as though I “grew up” a lot over the course of the past year. In some ways, I think the person I was before I left for Japan and the person I am now are very different. For the first time in my life, I was truly by myself — my parents, friends, roommates all on the other side of the world. Navigating a country where the predominant language was not English was challenging, but it ultimately made me a more confident and capable person. During my year abroad, I was also lucky enough to be able to travel Southeast Asia for the first time in my life. It was truly an eye-opening experience getting to explore such beautiful countries that were so different from America and Japan. The challenges and stress that can come from traveling to a foreign country enriched my entire experience and stick out as some of the most unforgettable parts of this journey. In Bali, my friend and I became friends with our driver as we bonded while we were stuck at the airport until 6 am because he accidentally dropped his car keys down the elevator shaft. Because of this experience, our new friend offered to be our driver for a whole day at a fraction of the price it would have cost us to hire a real driver, and took us to all of the best local places in Bali. In Malaysia, two kindhearted strangers who were dining at the same restaurant as us offered to drive us the twenty minutes back to our hotel when we learned that our only way home — the rideshare app, Grab — did not offer pickups in the rural area our restaurant was located. I am so grateful that I not only got to spend one year exploring Japan, but also got to see a little bit more of the world and experience all that Southeast Asia has to offer. I left Japan as a more worldly and open-minded person with a newfound passion for experiencing new things and seeing as much of the world as I can.
Living abroad for a year taught me so many valuable life lessons that I will treasure and use as a foundation for the rest of my life. My world was expanded significantly, which really allowed me to see the bigger picture and adopt a more positive, worldly outlook on life. I used to get stressed very easily over little things, but living abroad showed me what is actually important in life and what is not, teaching me to stop stressing over minuscule and insignificant things because they just aren’t worth it. I’ve made lifelong friends from all over the world, traveled throughout Southeast Asia for the first time, and experienced life outside of America. What has stuck with me the most, however, is just how important it is to get outside of your comfort zone. I wholeheartedly agree with the quote, “life begins outside of your comfort zone” and will embrace this concept whenever I am faced with a challenge or momentous decision throughout my life. I look forward to what the future holds and am so grateful to be able to use the valuable lessons I’ve learned while abroad as a guide for the rest of my life. Thank you so much to Ray and Verena Borton and the entire foundation for this opportunity.